A present of time on Mother's Day

When your children are small, they usually come home from school with a handmade card or special poem for Mother’s Day. I still have the card my daughter brought home in her first year at school with her tiny hand prints all over it.

“Sometimes you get discouraged
Because I am so small
And always leave my fingerprint
On furniture and walls.
But every day I’m growing up
And soon I’ll be so tall
That all those little hand prints
Will be hard to recall
So here’s the special hand prints
Just so that you can say
This is how my fingers looked
When I placed them here today.”

But my favorite part of the card was her own carefully written words “You ar allwase there for me. You ar the best mom ever. I love you so much.” Every time I pull out that card, I have a little lump in my throat.

As moms we have so many memories like this to treasure. Sometimes it’s hard to appreciate them at the time because we are so exhausted by parenting and all it entails. It’s often only years later that we look back and realize the importance of those special moments.

I made a memory book for each of my children, from the time of the first baby scan to the time they left school. It contained locks of hair, birthday cards, photos, concert programs and certificates. Little did I know at the time that these books would remain with me and that I am the one who browses through them, recalling how my daughter wanted to be a ballet dancer and my son used to call a guitar a ‘maulie, maulie’.

A memory book can make a good mother’s day gift. One called “Mom, I want to hear your Story” is a guided journal for mothers to share their lives.

As my children grew up, Mother’s Day was still a special day, even if the thoughtful little gifts were sometimes bought by dad and then signed by the kids. I would hear crashing and banging in the kitchen as they all worked together to make me breakfast. It was usually brought to me in bed, sometimes with a flower on the tray. I would sigh a bit as I cleaned up the mess in the kitchen but I felt enormously blessed and surrounded by love.

Mother’s Day changes as your kids grow up. I won’t wake up to breakfast in bed and I am not likely to receive any cards but I know my adult kids will still show their love for me. I am already telling myself that I must enjoy every second of the time I am able to spend with them whenever it occurs. The day will come when they will establish their own family traditions and their children will start bringing them breakfast in bed.

Amidst the commercialism of Mother’s Day and the bombardment of advertisements, kids may feel that they have to buy their mothers expensive gifts. Speaking for myself and many other mothers, I know that the gift of time is often the most precious one a mother of adult children can receive.

If they want to give you a gift, some of the best ones are usually simple, small ones with some thought behind them. My adult kids know I don’t appreciate gifts like bath salts or cosmetics. On the other hand, any gardening-related gift will delight me.

Gardening-related mother’s day gift ideas

A kneeling pad can make a big difference to a mom who loves gardening. This one made of high density foam is thick enough to offer great protection to the knees. It is sturdy enough to last and is dirt and water-resistant.