Journaling after a late-life divorce Posted on August 30August 30 Divorce is emotionally taxing and going through divorce after 50 can cause your anxiety to spiral. When you’re anxious it’s difficult to think straight and make sound decisions. Journaling after a late-life divorce can help you to cope with anxiety. It gives you a safe space to process your thoughts and emotions. You can express your anger, frustration, and sadness in way that doesn’t affect others around you and without any judgment. Why journaling can help you When you write down what you’re feeling, it helps you to gain clarity and feel a sense of unburdening yourself. You may discover certain patterns in your behavior or recognize triggers that bring you to a place of more self-awareness. Process and heal: A divorce can cause you to experience feelings you have never felt before and in quick succession. You need to take time to process them. Journaling provides a structured way to work through all your feelings such as rejection, sadness, anger, and shame. Reduce anxiety: When you confront your feelings head on and write about them, it can act as a form of meditation. Calmness comes as you tune out all the distractions around you and focus on your thoughts in a constructive manner. Make more informed decisions: You will have to make decisions about division of assets, and many others over the course of your divorce. Writing can help you to weigh up the pros and cons and think about all the different angles before making a decision. Find your truth: When you focus on your inner feelings you can find your own truth rather than listening to what those around you have to say. It can promote acceptance and help you to free yourself to move forward. Track your progress: Journaling gives you a record of your journey to healing. When you go back at previous entries you can see your progress in adapting to the changes in your life. It can give you hope that you can rebuild your life step by step. How to use journaling after gray divorce There aren’t any rules about what or what not to write when journaling after a late-life divorce. You may even be critical about yourself. It is when you can move beyond your inner critic that you can find the truth. When you first start out it can be hard to remain consistent but it is only when you journal consistently that it achieves its true purpose. Here are some tips to help you get started: Choose a journal that resonates with you. It may be a guided journal or a blank one. In a guided journal, you will write responses to questions or statements that help to guide you through the process of recovery. Set aside time to write each day. It doesn’t have to be a long time. Even 10 minutes can be long enough. Choose a time of day when you are able to be introspective without too many distractions. Don’t worry about grammar or spelling. Don’t judge yourself or censor your thoughts. Just allow them to flow. Try to express yourself as honestly as possible. Don’t sugar coat your words as you are likely to be the only one to read your journal. What to write about in your journal Reflect on your relationship with your ex-husband. What were your biggest issues? What have you learned from your relationship? If you were to write a letter to your ex what would you say? Write about the emotions you’re feeling. Sometimes, when going through a late-life divorce you can experience a whole range of emotions in a single day. Try to understand why you are feeling certain emotions. Why are you angry? Why do you feel sad? Set some goals for the future. Divorce is a time of uncertainty and it helps if you have goals to work towards. Write about your children. If they are already adults it doesn’t mean that your divorce is any easier for them. They are likely to feel it very deeply because of all their memories of life together as a family. Write down your self-care goals. This can help to prevent you from succumbing to anxiety and letting yourself go. Reflect on any regrets you have so you can hold yourself accountable. Focus on the positive aspects of your life through writing about events, situations, or interactions for which you are grateful. Journaling for mental health Many research studies show the benefits of journaling for mental health. One 2022 meta-review of research studies suggests that journaling can have a positive effect on anxiety in men and woman but is generally more effective for women. It also suggested that journaling for more than 30 days is necessary to maximize its mental health benefits. Journaling doesn’t replace seeing a licensed therapist or counseling but it can be a valuable part of a mental health/self-care plan. If you are already having therapy, it can help you to make progress between sessions. It’s also a good way to start organizing what you want to focus on if you intend going for therapy. Venting negative feelings can give you an emotional release. Confronting negative emotions and telling your story can improve your state of mind and reduce stress and depression. A final word Journaling can help you to break out of a cycle of obsessive, negative thinking. It can help you to regulate your emotions, improve your perception of events, and even improve your physical health. This is why it is such a valuable part of your self care routine after going through a late-life divorce
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